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The Pope’s home-spun joy

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Archbishop Mark Coleridge, one of two Australian-based bishops to attend the Synod on the Family in Rome last October, has written this piece for The Weekend Australian newspaper reflecting on Pope Francis’ document Amoris Laetitia, ‘The Joy of Love: On Love in the Family’.


From the moment of his election just over three years ago, Pope Francis has been a Pope of surprises. One of the surprises of this old man has been his energy. It’s been astonishing, and part of the energy has been literary – as we see in his latest production, published on Friday, entitled The Joy of Love.

Its sub-title is “On Love in the Family”, and in it the Pope wants to gather up and move forward the work of the two Synods of Bishops held in Rome in 2014 and 2015. The decision to hold the two Synods on the theme of marriage and the family was a big surprise. But it was shrewd strategy from a Pope who is nothing if not a strategist.

What Francis was saying to the Church was that a Synod isn’t just a one-off event; it’s an ongoing journey, which is actually what the word “synod” means. In The Joy of Love Francis doesn’t claim to be the final word settling every controversial question. Nor does he claim to offer a comprehensive pastoral plan to be implemented around the planet. His claims are more modest – and for that reason more compelling. He wants this text to be another step on the way – not a final product but another part of the process.

Modest Francis may be, but this is an ambitious offering. That sort of tension undergirds all he writes here. The Joy of Love is high-visioned but also home-spun. He offers the grand and ageless poetry of the Church’s vision of marriage and the family, which has the deepest roots in biblical tradition. The document is full of contemplative vistas but also down-to-earth practical wisdom which could come only from long pastoral experience of spouses and their families. It moves constantly between the ideal and the real.

Francis is not afraid to name the dark side of marriage and the family as it appears in the very different cultures of the world. At times he seems to rub our noses in the facts of marriage and the family, even when the facts are decidedly unpleasant. Yet out of the mess he always seems able to make the title of his text, The Joy of Love, seem more than vapid dreaming or whistling in the dark in a world where both joy and love can seem a mirage. He opens up a huge vision of possibility for marriage and the family at a time when that vision seems to be shrinking. So often so little seems possible; yet here is Pope Francis speaking of a hope for marriage and the family that reaches beyond all the seeming hopelessness.

Of course he says the Church must speak the truth. But that isn’t enough. If that’s all we do, then we run the risk of turning the great truths of Christianity into stones which we hurl at those we want to condemn. We also need to accompany those who are moving towards the truth but haven’t got there yet. We need to walk with people – all kinds of people, especially those who are struggling in their marriage or family life. That means a serious and practical commitment to mercy which, as Francis points out, is the name of God and the very heart of the Gospel. It’s what Christianity has to offer in an often merciless world.

To walk with people, whoever they are, means to enter into dialogue with them. And that means we listen to people – whoever they may be and however far they may fall short of the ideal. For Francis, the ideal does matter; the vision must be kept clearly focused. But if we speak only of it, then we can drift off into some abstract noosphere that doesn’t breathe the air of reality. The Joy of Love insists that we have to deal always with the facts, however messy they may be; we have to be in touch with the reality of marriage and the family, not clinging to some romanticised sense of what the family should be. A genuinely pastoral approach to marriage and the family begins with the facts.

Among the facts is that marriage is the sexual sacrament, and Francis doesn’t at all shy away from speaking of sexuality. At the Synod in 2015, which I attended, the talk about sexuality at times seemed somewhat disembodied and abstract – not surprisingly perhaps, given that most at the Synod were celibate. But there’s nothing disembodied or abstract here about what Francis writes of sexuality in marriage and the family. He speaks openly and insightfully of passion and the emotions, but also of education in human sexuality for the young.

The language Francis uses is crucial; and The Joy of Love is certainly a call to change the way the Church speaks about marriage and the family. In part, this is because most people these days don’t understand the language we use; nor do they share our assumptions. We take too much for granted. There is a crisis of communication; and as an old teacher I know that when you’re not communicating to your students you need to find other words and images that might break through the glazed look. We’re in search of new words and images; and Francis is a serious help in that. He speaks in a way we haven’t heard from a Pope for a very long time, perhaps ever.

The Pope’s idiom isn’t static but strikingly dynamic. Marriage is not a state but a journey; so too is family life. The ideal is the point of arrival, but the real is one of the many points on the way. Addressing the facts means meeting people where they are, not condemning them because they should be somewhere else. The community of the Church has to journey with people – humbly and humanly – before they’re married, when they’re preparing for marriage, in the early years of married life and all the way till death brings the journey to an end. That journeying means listening to the truth people speak, even in the midst of the mess, but also offering them – tenderly (one of Francis’ favourite words) – the hope that much more is possible.

Accompanying people on the way also means discerning with them the truth of their journey and even the movement of God in their life – because the real God moves also in the mess. God is not only the point of arrival, awaiting the successful at journey’s end. God is also, says Francis, our companion on the way, with all our failures; and people need to be helped to discover that truth.

Popes traditionally have spoken as “we” rather than “I” and with good reason, because Popes gather up the wisdom not only of ages but of a vast worldwide community. In that sense, the Pope – even a distinctively voiced Pope like Francis – always speaks in the first person plural. In The Joy of Love we have not only the words of an extraordinary human being and pastor, but also a wisdom which is deep and wide at a time when we’re not always wise, not always joyful and loving, in addressing the many complex questions concerning marriage and the family. What Francis offers here is not just for the Church; it’s for the world.

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